Musings

“What if the person you like doesn’t like you back?”

Paano kung hindi ka gusto ng taong gusto mo?”
Paano siya magkakagusto sa’yo?”

I was thinking of something to blog, and the above questions from the previous retreat’s special night came to mind. As for guys, they can exert extra effort to win a girl’s heart. But, as for ladies, it’s different. God designed women uniquely. Women are meant to be pursued, not to pursue. If a guy we like doesn’t like us back, then we can’t do something about that other than be our real selves. Accept, move on, and lift our feelings up to the Lord instead.

Kasi if we think of doing something to make that someone like us back, we can fall into the dangerous path of manipulating things. We can stalk them all we want and pretend to like the things they’re interested in. We can try to be someone that they would like. Yes, we may succeed on that, but, they wouldn’t really-authentically-genuinely like us. They will only like the pretend version we made of ourselves. Parang hindi naman maganda ‘yun, hindi ba?

If they don’t like us back the way we want to, then, maybe it’s not really meant to be. There may also be other reasons we may not know yet. But, keep this in mind, someone not liking us back doesn’t decrease our worth and value. Our worth and value as a woman and as a person isn’t dependent on what people think about us; it’s dependent on what our Creator says about us – how God sees us. Let God tell us who we are. He created us. He definitely knows us best.

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful. I know that full well.” (Psalm 139:14)

Oo, we can feel bad, and at times ask questions like “Bakeeeettttttt?“, “Is something wrong with me?“, “Am I not beautiful?“, etcetera, etcetera. It’s normal. It happens. Pero, we shouldn’t let these negative thoughts linger in our minds. Mauuwi tayo sa party – pity party. Someone not liking us back doesn’t mean there’s always something wrong with us. Let’s always go back to the Word, and see our real value and worth. Let’s see how God sees us first.

Paano kung hindi ka gusto ng taong gusto mo?”
Paano siya magkakagusto sa’yo?”

Eh ‘di hindi. Wala kang gagawin. The right person for you will like you just the way you are. More elaboration below.

Ang point ko lang naman ay, you don’t have to pretend to be someone you are not for someone to like you. You are you for a reason. Remember this, your “God’s best” will see you the way God sees you. (Thanks to Doms for this quote) Kung hindi ka like nung like mo, baka hindi naman kasi siya or hindi pa siya yung alam mo na or may ibang plans si God for you. Don’t focus on that guy or on how he could like you back.

Just focus on who God wants you to be, and who you are according to God. Change for God, not for the man you like. Be your best self for God first. Good night! ☺

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